From her article:
Yes, Dad, there is indeed some sort of game going on here. And you need to know the rules so you can outsmart the other team, which has Gender Stereotyping, Gender Role Expectations, Desire To Fit In With My Peer Group, and Stereotype Threat playing for it.
What you are dealing with here are a set of beliefs that are acting to create a reality for your daughter that overrules any data that comes in to the contrary. You have to find ways to challenge those beliefs. Here are some of the beliefs.
- No one else in my class is struggling with math. Only me.
- Because I am struggling with math, the good grades I get are lucky.
- My luck cannot hold out forever.
- Sooner or later, when my luck runs out, I will fail.
- Then everyone will see I am a failure and a fraud, not really a success like they think I am now.
Good stuff there, go check it out.
Auntie Zuska talks about why girls tend to think they aren’t very good at math and science, even when they get excellent grades, and what to do to help them understand that they are capable of anything. She also links to some good girl resources that might help you help your daughter.
A must read for Dads. Do it for your little girl.